Ruffle Sleeves: Wearing My Emotions

Let’s just give a little praise for the weekend!!!  And then for this ruffle sleeve sweater!!!  And for emotional vulnerability!!!

I don’t typically post on Saturday’s but with our recent travels I took some time off from writing posts and now I am playing some catch-up.  But to be honest I kind of like reading my favorite blogs on a Saturday morning.  While Declan is watching soccer with Brendan I can catch up on all the things I missed throughout the week.  Happy Saturday Lovelies.

I have always been one to wear my emotions on my sleeve.  For good or bad; this is me.  I do not have a poker face.  But in recent years I have been criticized for being too emotional, for being too deep and for being too open with my thoughts.  So, I shut it down.  I closed it off.  The consistent and perpetual commentary about how I was too “deep” wore on me and I began to question myself.  It became clear that people did not want to discuss anything of substance, or didn’t feel comfortable discussing anything with weight… so I stopped asking.  And in turn I stopped sharing MY emotions.

Never did I feel comfortable doing this.  It made conversations seem forced, fake and artificial.  I didn’t want to talk about the weather, or the traffic or the recent opening of a new restaurant- at least not all the time.  And in turn I stopped having conversations with any substance and to be real… it left me feeling shallow, fake and unattached.  Now, I understand that some people are less comfortable discussing deep emotional stuff, or politics, or life challenges or whatever…and I RESPECT that.  But that is not me.

As humans we are given the gift of FEELINGS and EMOTIONAL depth.  Surface chatter wasn’t enough for me.  So, I am back to wearing my {ruffles} on my  sleeve.  I want to talk about things that matter to the world, to humans, to my friends, to me.  Getting to know someone on an emotional level is something I live for… I love to understand the “why”of people. (I majored in Psychology in college).  Having and creating those types of relationships is sooo important to me.  And for too long I hid that.

It isn’t always about breaking down the walls or knowing every single personal detail.  Believe me, there are emotions/feelings I keep close to my heart and don’t share or discuss… but it is about being honest with someone and creating a relationship grounded in real life.  Let’s stop skirting around the truth, let’s stop feeling weak when we become emotional or vulnerable, let’s stop being hesitant when talking with each other.  Be respectful but not distant.  Be real but not rude.  Be unguarded but not weak.  Just be real.

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Photos: Jenna Sparks Photography 

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Soooo… almost everything in this outfit is on sale.  Starting with this {ruffle} sleeve sweater on sale for under $55 using code YAYCLOTHES… talk about a deal for a cute wool sweater.  Ruffles are such a hot trend this season and I love that this sweater leaves all the dramatic detail to the sleeves so you don’t feel like you are wearing a bib.  This sweater runs TTS (true to size) and comes in four colors.  I, obviously, went with classic gray but the dark green was a strong contender.

Next, the denim which are 50% (until 10/10) which puts them under $40.  These high-rise babies are my favorite and I love the rich color.  They are soft which make them easy to wear and comfortable.  J.Crew is one of my favorite place to get everyday classic denim and these do no disappoint.  They run TTS and have them in vary lengths. I was a little skeptical about the high-rise but am absolutely over any fear I had.  Hurry and snag these before the sale ends.

Camo shoes. A big surprise… NOT.  Comfortable and stylish.  Looking for more camo inspiration check out this post from earlier this week.

wearing my {ruffles} proudly

I want to know what makes you happy, what makes you angry, what makes FEEL.  And in turn you can be assured I will match that.  I am not one to keep my emotions to myself, I cry in public, I over-share and I feel deeply.  And I am no longer ashamed of that.  I am no longer going to shy away from asking those emotional questions.  I will respect boundaries both for myself and my relationships… but I am going to continue wearing my {ruffle} on my sleeve.

With Love,

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