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  • Family Life, Sensory Processing

    Secrets for Successful Santa Visits

    The Big Man.  Santa Claus.  St. Nick. Father Christmas

    The thing is this: as a parent you either loath the visit to Santa or you wait all year for this amazing day.  Despite what side you fall on the visit is going to happen.  And hopefully after reading this the visit will be a huge success.

    We all know the picture of the fat man in a red suit holding the screaming baby… yah we have that photo! And in fact we have like 3 of them.  It is only in the past year that Declan has come around to Santa.  But each year we have gotten closer and closer to a successful Santa visit and so I am determined that this year will be the best one yet! And because we have been through this and now we have the lens of sensory processing I wanted to share my secrets to successful Santa visits.

    For kids with SPD a visit to Santa can either be a great way to meet sensory needs or it can be a nightmare. If you kiddo is a seeker than all the lights, crowds, sounds and Santa himself can meet a lot of their needs.  But if you child is an avoider, especially a severe avoider, a visit to Santa class could just be the worst day every- despite your best intentions.  My hope is that no matter your child’s needs these secrets will help ease any anxiety and tension.

    The whole idea of Santa is to create memories and share the magic of the Holidays with out littles.  Santa is the last step of magic… before they become non-believers.  So let’s make those visits a happy, joyful, stress free outing.

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    5 SECRETS FOR SUCCESSFUL SANTA VISITS

    Plan Ahead

    This may seem like a silly one to even mention.  BUT when you are dealing with kids with SPD (or any child in general) having a plan can make or break your trip.  While some parents and children are able to fly by the seat of their pants I highly suggest making a PLAN before you venture off to see Santa.  Consider timing; not only how long it takes to see Santa but the potential line, the amount of travel time and any additional time spent getting to Santa.  Don’t take kids around lunch time when they may be hungry and consider first thing in the morning before your kids start to get tired.  Make sure to check when Santa is available before you head out! Santa is waiting!

    Divide and Conquer

    Make it a group outing!  Invite grandparents and/or close friends.  Have a one adult wait in line (if there is one) and one or two adults walk around the kiddos.  This can be especially helpful for kids with SPD.  Seekers may need to run, jump and wiggle.  So having someone to hangout with them and support them while they do that can be really helpful.  If you have an avoider having an extra person there to wait further away from the crowds, or help distract or even wait in the car can make the whole experience manageable.  It takes a village!

    santaBe Flexible

    Parents want perfect Hallmark photos and memories.  And sometimes we have such grandiose expectations of what the visit and moment should look like that we forget to let our kids experience.  Keep in mind they are still children and be flexible on your expectations of the moment.  The photo may not be perfect but your child’s eyes light up and the magic is alive in them then that is a successful Santa visit.  Remember, whose memory is this… theirs or yours??

    Keep It Simple

    For the most part kids are simple humans.  They like it simple and easy.  Adults are the ones that make it complicated and muddy up the waters.  And believe me I am guilty of this!  Let them be kids.  Do not stress about what they may say to Santa- let them be spontaneous.  Try not to over think their behavior in the moment; as a parent of SPD that is hard to do. But them experience and live it.  They are simple creatures who simply want to laugh, smile and be happy.  And if Santa doesn’t meet those need I am not sure who can!

    Expect The Unexpected

    You made a plan a head of time, you were flexible and you kept it simple… and then you got up to Santa and your kiddo freaked out.  Expect that.  In the moment things can always change and while being flexible is great it is also making sure we understand that we will likely be surprised by something.  For the kids with SPD this last secret is one of the most important.  We can plan and do as much preparing as possible but we all know that we should walk into any situation expecting the unexpected.  And that is okay!  And that does not mean failure!

    Santa truly embodies the best that the Holidays has to offer and I want more than anything for you and your kiddos to enjoy getting to see him and sending off your Christmas wishes.  But Mamas, remember at the end of the day it is about the memories and the magic of the season.  Santa is a great dude!  But do not make a visit to see him the end all be all of the Holiday season.  With these five easy secrets your visits will hopefully be a little more successful, be a little less anxious and a little more merrier.

    With Love,

  • Family Life, Sensory Processing

    Holiday Gift Guide For Kids With Sensory Processing

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    Tis the Season… For Gift Giving! This year I want to share the top gifts and each gift is sensory inspired. All of these gifts meet and/or address at least one and actually multiple sensory needs.  Whether it be a swing for vestibular and self regulation.  Or a shopping cart that meets proprioceptive and tactile. And every gift on the list is under $100 while most are actually under $50.

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  • Family Life, Sensory Processing

    Sensory Processing Disorder: The Impact of Seeking vs. Avoiding

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    So, you are curious what the impact of your child’s sensory struggles may be.  After reading about the SEVEN sense involved in SPD it’s time to chat more about the impact this has on your kiddo.  As you have noticed sometimes you child me shy away from sensory experiences while others may seek them out.  And it is perfectly normal that sometimes your child may seek out certain senses and then avoid others.

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  • Family Life, Sensory Processing

    Occupational Therapy: What To Expect In First Three Months

    Occupational Therapy: What We Have Learned In The First Three Months

    Every three months I plan to update you on our progress and journey through occupational therapy.  As Declan was diagnosed just four months ago and we started therapy in July I wanted to jump right in.  But first I think we need to go back to, what I will call terrible uneducated times.

    Recently I shared our journey to diagnosis but the time between diagnosis and beginning of therapy were some of the hardest.  Declan was miserable and so were we.  Before we began therapy, and even several weeks in, we had NO IDEA what we were doing.  As a former special education teacher I thought I was familiar with occupational therapy and what to expect.  Boy, was I wrong.

    Occupational therapy for kiddos with SPD looks like a padded indoor playground/jungle gym.  I was under the impression occupational therapy (OT) would be a quiet hour where my son would sit and work on fine motor skills; like writing, cutting and pencil grips.  In the past three months I have learned a tremendous amount and realize how stupid uneducated I was.  As a side note we have the most AMAZING occupational therapist who has not only worked with my son but worked with us.  Without her I believe we would still be in the “uneducated” and drowning stage.

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    Breaking this down into a month by month will be easiest.  For several reason; for newbies to be able to anticipate what to expect, to really detail out the progress points and to remind myself that we have made progress.  One of the hardest things about having differently wire child  is that sometimes it is really really hard to see progress.  When one day is fantastic and then three are bad you forget that there used to be zero good days.

    MONTH ONE

    We saw our occupational therapist four times in the first month.  Luckily for Declan his therapist was the same person who did his assessment meaning there wasn’t a lot of time wasted with getting her up to speed.  We jumped right in with a program they used that helped kids isolate and understand different elements of their sensory disorder.  She read books the first week and talked about the different “characters” that took over Declans body.  He seemed to latch onto this… until we were sitting at dinner after our first therapy and he told me “there is something wrong with my brain so we have to go to therapy.”

    My emotional reaction was STOP.  STOP ALL THE THERAPY. The next week I addressed this with our therapist and we have not used those characters since.  And no longer does Declan think there is anything wrong with his bran.  That was a scary situation for us.  I NEVER want him to think there is something wrong with him.

    During weeks two and three she really spent her time watching what activities seemed to give him the best stimuli input and then gave me tangible ways to meet them at home.  For example, Declan has a strong desire to spin as his vestibular system is one area of weakness for him. So she recommended some toys to help with that and parks with spinning equipment.

    Week four was used to prepare him for our upcoming travels.  We worked on ways to give him input in public places, we introduced a visual thermometer that he can use to show us how he is feeling as well as bunch of sensory break ideas that are good for on the go.  It was a very hands on session for me as I learned the best ways to provide both calming and stimulating experiences for Declan.

    MONTH TWO 

    We took a break during the month of August as we were traveling and so was our occupational therapist.  We resumed just before school started up again. And thank goodness.

    Week one was a preparation and refresher on how to maintain appropriate body awareness at school.  Our therapist read him books that he could relate to and that we can use at home.  She gave him ideas on things he can do in the classroom when he begins to feel the need to wiggle! Additionally, Declan really struggle with personal space and while I am not too phased at home by this we did not want this to become a problem at school.  We did a lot of activities inside a hula hoop – to mimic the space someone needs!  It was extremely helpful.

    Week two and three were during the first weeks of school and she used this time as a way to let him release and get all the sensory stimuli he could. Declan has both proprioceptive and vestibular needs so we did a lot of swinging, spinning, jumping, crashing into ball pits, obstacle courses and deep muscle compression. From these sessions I was able to see things that really helped Declan get the input he was craving.  From these sessions I took ideas home to try.  I also took ideas to share with Declans teacher.

    Week four was after our therapist did a school visit. Therefore a lot of this sessions was spent discussing the things she saw, how we can help facilitate change in his classroom and what sorts of things we can do at home to set Declan up for a successful school day.  Our therapist suggested a wiggle cushion for seat work (which we bought this one), as well as a compression shirt to be worn under his clothes (we bought this one) and activities to do before we walk into school like skipping, jumping and bear crawls.

    MONTH THREE

    During this month our sessions were focused on struggles we were seeing at school.  Things like difficulty staying in centers, keeping his body still during prayer time (he goes to a Catholic school) and impulse control.

    Each session in month three was dictated by what we were seeing at school during that week- normally from notes his teacher would send him.  Our occupational therapist and I would chat and she would then design his session (quickly) around our 5-10 minute check in chat.

    A few of the things we saw that were very successful was in the way she set up her sessions to mimic his center time at school.  They would move between propriceptive, vestibular and fine motor centers.  He was getting all his sensory input while being required to stay in one place!  It really helped out at school and we saw a significant decrease in behavior at school.  During our occupational therapy time she also had him working on impulse control through games like “red light, green light”.

    As we are into month four by now we are continuing to see massive improvements in his sensory needs.  We have, as a family, worked EXTREMELY hard at integrating sensory into our lifestyle.  The fact is that in order for Declan to be successful it has to be a team effort and techniques learned from therapy need to fit seamlessly into our lives.

    Mama- I know there are tough days with you kiddo with SPD and sometimes you are not sure there is an end in sight.  But I promise once you start with some occupational therapy and really get educated you can and will see a huge difference.  Occupational therapy has been so incredibly successful for Declan; and in turn for us as a family.

    With Love,

  • Family Life, Sensory Processing

    Our Journey To A Sensory Processing Diagnosis

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    So, I have been asked a lot how we came about a diagnosis.  The typical question is ” Did you always know?” And simply put, YES.  We always knew there was something different about Declan.  From the time he was born we have been on a roller coaster ride and SPD has been along with us but only recently did we have a name for it.  Our diagnosis came a couple months after his fourth birthday.  But believe me we knew long before that. 

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