The amount of times I have ‘fallen’ is a fairly large number. I mean I am 34 (shhh) so I have had my fair share of stumbles through life- some are self inflicted and some are a victim of circumstance. We we all fall. We all stumble and the aftermath is when we truly learn something. And while those lessons are very important I find the biggest learning from my falls and stumbles has been learning how to ask for help. Sure, the pain and consequences you endure in self inflicting falling is a great learning tool but sometimes you can not pick yourself up alone. It took me years to learn this. Honestly, it took some pretty terrible circumstances to learn to ask for the help I needed. But I am not just talking about those huge situations; I am talking about the everyday challenges we all face.
shop the look: denim // turtleneck // vest // boots // bag // Jacket
Not only do I fall all the time but I love fall and this outfit is the perfect ‘falling’ outfit (see what I did there…) . Basic denim here friends, perfect color, perfect fit and perfect price. If I can find denim under $100 that I love I consider it a win BUT this pair is actually under $50 and they are the essential everyday denim to add to your wardrobe. If you know me well, or have been in my closet, you are aware I gravitate towards stripes… well here is an excellent choice for a striped turtleneck. This baby can be worn solo or as a layering piece under a vest or even a sweater. Every girl should have a pair of classic riding boots. I have had these for a few years and they have yet to fail me. Comfort is key for me given my walk-about lifestyle and these boots are a go to for fall days romping around with Declan.
Being from Colorado I am pretty particular on my outwears given how often I wear them. I look for not only style (duh) but quality and this Joules puffer vest is perfect. I love the diagonal quilting and the fact it keeps me perfectly warm on a crisp fall day. This camo utility jacket should look familiar to you, especially if you follow me on Instagram <here> because I have been wearing it constantly this fall. It is roomy enough to fit a vest under it for some layering warmth and the print is perfect. I am not sure I could ask for much more in a utility jacket.
Asking for help is hard.
This past weekend I ended up with a terrible cold- one that left me voiceless and exhausted. Now, Brendan may have enjoyed this little break from my chattering but life must go on and my toddler was not having any of it. So, I took the time to rest and finally asked Brendan for help. It was humbling and left me guilt stricken but in the end it helped me be able to get back up. It was minor for Brendan but huge for me. Many of you know that Declan spent a significant amount of time in the hospital during the first year of his life – everything has sorted itself out now- but I was constantly in a situation where I was forced to ask for help. Help from doctors, help from my mother (praise her over and over), help from nurses, help from friends. Asking for help does not infer failure on my behalf. Asking for help does not insinuate incompetence.
Thank you to all those who have helped me along this road of life. Thank you to those who have helped me pick up the pieces. And thank you to those who continue to offer help- even when I am reluctant to take it 🙂 I am, however, still very cautious of who I ask for help from but there are times in life where I simply can not do it alone.
Challenge yourself that in the coming week you ask for help- with the Holidays fast approaching we all get super busy and swamped… prefect opportunity to ask for help… and to pick up a few of these fall essentials before they sell out.
With Love,
